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I need some advice from a Christian pastor or Chaplain or someone concerning some deep marriage problems?
Hey sorry to ask such a vague question but I am having some really deep struggling in my marriage with my husband's past right now and I was just wondering if there is anyone out there I can ask about for advice and how to heal. I've never been able to seek help or healing for this as we live in a very small community and sadly, even my pastor isn't trustworthy and in a town this size it would destroy my husband's reputation and there are no counseling services available in the area. Sorry. Thanks and God bless.
Advice needed for the very common arranged marriage problems?
1 aside from having very nutty and stressful parents, and as usual the arrogant fiance thinks they're the perfect parents in laws with a disgustingly sickeningly obedient daughter... or what ever world these weird men live in, well in reality that is never the case. these odd dudes are looking for some sort of untouched virgin fairy, well im all bad language and stressed by my evil parents. May be that aall isn't him, its just the way the nutty parents want to think and think that's how things should be for me they don't bother any one else 2 So i really like this guy and i like his personality on lots of levels and in many ways, but as in all arranged marriages its stressful because there are so many people involved and some times they aren't all supportive because they all think about the bride and groom at the last and put themselves in between everything all the time. and in some cases the bride and groom just have to be polite if they want to be together. Its like in my case no one has any sympathy that they might be ruining my wedding day because they just seem to behave like who cares you both are going to be together later on forever any way, and you know when its people like that its never going to be easy.3 My wedding dress was suppose to be a surprise for the groom but my mum and sister demanded to know what it was, so they can make sure they and their other bride measures up, They made him ask me and the thing is, for the groom to see the wedding dress before the wedding is bad luck. They really want to be over intervening in the most childish way and they don't seem to even bothr to know that i am under a lot of stress arranging everything, and doing other things too....they think its fun telling me how to deign my dress now when the order was give 2 months ago when i told them. 3 Im having doubts about this, because although i like the guy and i think he is lovely. i don't want to really feel like im alone in this situation of insanity and i don't know if it will get worse,,, the thing is im not very hoping to have a difficult time or use tooo much energy on things like that now because im not really able to and i want to really focus on life in a different more full filling way. 3 I don't know if im going to feel physically sttracted to me, or even want a physocal relationship because not only do i feel pissed off and dead and drained, I think they way his family is it completely robs his manlyhood off him, and im completely not attracted to that under any circumstances what so ever.....4 i feel like he could even be like a brother or a just a friend, i think if we get married i migt respect him but thats alli can give him then with out going bizzark, i wouldn't want a very close relationship or any thing because i feel it would put in a position to have that with his WHOLE family instead which isn't very humanly possible for me, im not a joke or a clown im a very solitary person.5 i want the reationship with him, but its like his family want me to have it with them instead when they don't care about me even, they actually try to suck up to him a lot more now instead. But i feel like they should just all marry him and not submit some body else to this weird junk.6 he didn't talk much, when some times he should of tried i think now. 7 I want to study a pgce soon but it will begin when i am married and im happy to live here carry on with my things and not move with him just so he can may be focus on our communication more and more time for us to get to know each other before and give us a better chance to get on, instead of ruin every thing terribly, annoyingly, uncommfortably and awkwardly.8 If i move there he needs to make a decision to stay there, because i hate having to compromise everything in my life because he thinks im like a toy, or he can pack up and take me where ever when ever he feels like it, and i hate moving readjusting, etc, etc 9 His parents havent even decided on a walimah yet, and are also asking for a mehndi party from me and i hate mehndi to death, he hates mehndi but no i should go through all the trouble because his fat mum enjoys that rubbish.10 I don't know his family at all, they live abroad. I don't know him very well either and after the wedding my parents and his think i should go live with the whole 9 bunch in a crappy new house they have bougt over here. Not taling into consideration that i don't know any of these ugly people, i will have course work to complete and work experience before my course starts. And my home is far better than theres any time.... how do these weirdos expect me to settle in. And all because i think their mentality is really like spoilt children. And the blasted son all he can do is just ask for wat his fat mum tells him to.11 on new year i was relieved to be talking more to him, until i realised he was asking about only things for his mum and sis. His communication ii would say is now poor with me for me at my standard. I don't find him that lovely either but then i caught him giving me this look, and i was like im never going to get on with you ever. I really felt like that and Im thinking the only thing i may do if i really do not want this is make my wedding cheap tht way i get more money to take my self which will be the best plan i can think of and i can use him if i need how ever only for a little while but will have enough money to live alone and where ever i want. Other than that i don't want to be around my parents any more and they won't help me out or let me move on healthily unless i get married and you know what? i think all these weirdos will get what is coming to them if they don't sort it out by the time they should of because im not interesed in having a stressful life for any body because im a girl going for an arranged marriage where i should be more respected and cared for in the end my parents will always support me no matter what happens, but i can make what i want out of the marriage if he earns my disliking him, and i will make my decisions carefully too.Other than that i don't want to be around my parents any more and they won't help me out or let me move on healthily unless i get married and you know what? i think all these weirdos will get what is coming to them if they don't sort it out by the time they should of because im not interesed in having a stressful life for any body because im a girl going for an arranged marriage where i should be more respected and cared for in the end my parents will always support me no matter what happens, but i can make what i want out of the marriage if he earns my disliking him, and i will make my decisions carefully too. But if i have home work and there is buch of toilet using human there i don't know im not going in that house ha especially, since they haven't set a walimah date which i won't let them off with they should be paying half if that is the case.'I liked his personality', but since his parents know the blasted wedding date is near all crap is beginning to come out....those ass wholes if can't man up and take care of it they all will get what what they deserve, me running away because of what they did to me.
Well i'm a chriatian and i'm having some marriage problems that are affecting me and never has felt this way
Please help marriage problems?
me have problem what do1.me wife want name the baby sandy or linda2.me wife want care3.she scare me she mad4.now she want diamond ring oh my me have no moneyme work for 400$ a week700$ rent400$ food200$ bills100$ send to parents back home100$ tide,soap,.........100$ cloth for wife 1600$no more monwy how buy diamond ring,ha how tell me if sister inlaw have diamond me have no moneyfor 2 me wife want carviolet me wife pregnant she not know much english tono loan haram intrest
Does Christianity offer a solution to marriage problems?
If Christianity is considered to be The Religion for humanity, then, what solution does it offer to couples who face irreconcilibe problems.In Matthew 5 32 Jesus teaches about divorce " But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." According to the scholars, the explanation is this 1 It refers to divorced women. But don't think that just because this specific verse only mentions women that it only applies to women. It applies equally to both men and women.2 If you get a divorce in court, God does not recognize that divorce. God considers you to still be married. In other words, you are not divorced in God's eyes. This means that if you get married again, you are committing adultery with your new spouse.3 There are some circumstances in which divorce is allowed. In this verse we see that divorce is allowed, if your partner has committed adultery with a physical relationship .1 Corinthians chapter 7 teaches us more about marriage, about staying single, and about divorce.Concerning divorce 1 Corinthians 10 11 says " Now, for those who are married I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not leave his wife." To sum up, in Christianity, Re marriage is not allowed. If you get divorced, you may not remarry. Your only option is reconciliation. Of course, every effort should made to reconcile and make the marriage work. But what if it does nt?The question is, in today s world, is the above condition applicable? We see many cases of abuse, incompatibility, infertility and so on and so forth. In Christianity, there is no way out for the couple to find a better life and move on, that is if they follow the law according to Scripture. To conclude, there is No Solution and how then, could Christianity be considered a way of life for humanity when it does not give a solution for a problem which is so rampant today?
Help Muslims marriage problems?
me wife is having a baby girl she want to name it a american name she pick linda or sandy,what me do me want muslim name but me no like make wife mad it scary?
Anyone here had marriage problems due to differences in religion?
Obviously you werent having problems when you decided to get married or you wouldn't have. So what was it that brought on arguments etc? I am marrying my Catholic fiance next year, we have been together 6 years and have two kids naughty him, I know . The other day I was talking about religion for some reason and he went all quiet and said he doesn't want to talk about religion with me because I will just make fun of him. I'm not too bad with that but sometimes I question him because I don't really understand his point of view especially when I know he is sooooo smart and logical.Anyway, we are fine for now but I want to know if there would be any things in the future that may cause marriage problems for us in regards to religion that I cannot forsee?He isn't withdrawing from me in general, he just withdrew from the conversation, or like just didn't want to get into it. It's because we were talking about whether to get our second child Baptised or not and I was complaining about the Priest making the parents promise to raise the child a Catholic when I know that I am not actively going to pursue that.Umm we have to discuss religion when we are deciding whether to Baptise our children or not. I didn't just bring it up for the sake of rubbing it in his face that I don't believe in it, he already knows that.I only said naughty him because I could picture someone answering this question and saying he isnt really a catholic if he has kids and we arent married. He is a non extreme version of Catholic, he doesn't even go to church anymore, I know if he had a wife of the same she would push him to go and he would probably be happier if I shared his belief but I just can't. I do love him with all my heart but I cannot change what I am. I don't mind our children going to church but I am against forcing them as his parents used to constantly push him to go, I want them to be able to choose for themselves without feeling guilty if they get to a point where they are questioning God. Judging by the last 6 years we would be fine forever but I know that things can change and am trying to find what kind of events may spark problems
Do you think it is harmful to talk to your friends about your marriage problems?
Whenever we have an arguement my wife gets right on the phone and calls her best friend and tells her every detail of the fight, even though I've asked her to respect our relationship and talk to me about our problems, she said she will always talk to her bf about everything. I don't want anyone in our relationship but us. Some people think that it just a female thing, but I'm a female and I never have the urge to call my fiends when we argue. I don't want them thinking badly about her or us. And her friend is in a straight, not so good relationship herself and is no position to give advice. It's not like she is going to a couple that have been together forever and asking them what their secret is. Am I wrong? Pls help.The worst thing is that she sees nothing wrong with it. She said she will stop because I say it hurts my feelings it is so much more than that . Then she says sarcastically I won't talk to anyone, just don't be surprised when I blow up. So I guess i have to deal with this behavior???
Need Christian advice for marriage problems!?
I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for about 2 years now and my sexual drive is completely lacking I don't know why and it has nothing to do with him. I'm not thinking about anyone else nor am I doing anything wrong. I've prayed about this issue and its making problems in our marriage with sexuality. What should I do?
Why do we think that divorce is the answer to marriage problems...?
and not self examination and obedience to God.
Have you ever sought advice on your marriage problems?
A husband and wife came for counselling after 15 years of marriage. When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a passionate, painful tirade listing every problem they had ever had in the 15 years they had been married. She went on and on and on neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable, an entire laundry list of un met needs she had endured over the course of their marriage. Finally, after allowing this to go on for a sufficient length of time, the therapist got up, walked around the desk and, after asking the wife to stand, embraced and kissed her passionately. The woman shut up and quietly sat down as though in a daze. The therapist turned to the husband and said, " This is what your wife needs at least three times a week. Can you do this?" The husband thought for a moment and replied, " Well, I can drop her off here on Mondays and Wednesdays, but on Fridays ..I go fishing
Who has had adult children come back home because of their marriage problems. How did you cope?
How come some people's marriage problems can make them so mean and bitter ?
I don't know why but everyone in the marriage and divorce section is mean and bitter for some reason and I didn't do anything to them and they just go off on me.
Marriage problems - please advise?
I have told my parents about marriage problems that I have been having, well i have told my brother over the phone and he is going to tell my parents but im scared now that I have let everything off my chest about my problems. I cant talk to my husband as he doesnt communicate with me. Can refuse to go back to my in laws if I dont want to?I married my 1st cousin and we both made that decision 3 months ago. It was suppose to be the happiest day of my life but he wasnt very happy. I didnt confront him as I didnt want to argue in the first stages of marriage, also he doesnt touch me and we havent even had sex. what kind of marriage is this without any love connection? I have done everything I can to make this marriage work and has changed my ways and practise more islam than i used to but he doesnt appreciate this. Any probs he goes to his mum.
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